Thursday, December 9, 2010

Self-Discipline and Inner Conflict

I feel at times like people just don't get this concept. If you want to change your life...DO IT. If you want to lose weight...stop eating what is making you gain weight and increase the calories your body burns. If you want to fly a plane...take the lessons. If you want 6pack abs then eat properly and burn fat. It's SIMPLE people. Jeepers, it isn't Rocket Science we are talking about. I mean if someone was intent on building a "Time Traveling Machine" I might coach them on looking at a more tangible goal or path but most people are wanting things that are achievable. I mean really...they are ACHIEVABLE.

This is where I get to be "The WHY Guy"; This is my expertise, I get to ask people WHY aren't you getting rich, finding happiness, losing weight, being full-filled and generally living the life you want to live. One of the answers that consistently shows up and rears its ugly head is a lack of self-discipline.

When we ask ourselves the "Big question" - "What is it I want to change in my life" and go through the 7 day process there is no doubt about what change it is that needs to be made and what change is wanting to be made in our lives. The crazy part, is that even though we KNOW what we want to do and we DESIRE that change in our lives, it is our Self-Discipline or lack thereof that puts up this invisible wall in front of us. I say invisible because only you can see it? Or is it only you that sees it? Have you ever been passed over for a promotion? Have you made huge gains in the gym only to see them fade away due to diet challenges? Are you a serial dater who just can't seem to find the right mate? Maybe the wall isn't invisible after all? Maybe the outside world can see our Self-Discipline walls and don't want to make the effort to try and climb over them or break them down to get to us. If the outside world perceives you as an individual with a lack of self-discipline and a lack of resolve to accomplish what you set your mind to, then it only adds to the size of the wall or "Internal Conflict" that you personally are trying to breakthrough.

I firmly believe that our individual success/failure metrics come from our "Internal Conflicts". If you know what you want to do, you have the correct plan laid out, you have the desire, you have the means to make it happen and you still don't succeed... it is your action that is off not your planning. The 80/20 rule applies here. Your mental makeup is perfect. You have identified the problem, worked out solutions, picked the best one and off you go. The problem is that with every step forward you tend to take 2 steps back. Why? What is it that you have done wrong? Simple answer - You have Internal Conflicts. Your actions are inhibited by the conflicts raging within you. They may be so deep inside you that you really don't know what they are or they may be things as simple as your Ego not allowing you to lay yourself out there and fail?

The challenge going forward it this - If you don't IDENTIFY the conflicts within then you're going to continue along the same path as you are going now with all of the various degrees of success and failure you have known for years. There is no simple way or answer of how to achieve this but what I do know, is you have to really look at what you want NOW, what your willing to commit to NOW and what is important to you NOW.

We all want to change the world in one way or another. Where things start to derail for us personally, is when we try to take on too much at a time. When we pile our goals and dreams together and start playing "Jenga" with them. As we all know, that pile of wood blocks ALWAYS comes crashing down. It is for this reason that I think 'The 365 Effect" is another way of helping people break through their walls and reach a higher levels of self-discipline.

The 365 Effect allows you to focus on the Big Question for 365 days. It isn't a great deal of time. It really isn't. All of us over the age of 20 has said at one time or another "Where did that year go". That's just it; A year can fly by quicker than you know it. The 365 Effect allows you to align your life with what it is that you really want to do. The ALIGNMENT of your actions to your commitments, is where the real breakthrough starts to happen. If you can free yourself of the inner conflicts that are preventing you from making the progress you want then the 365's daily process of being self-disciplined and resolved towards changing what you want NOW in your life will be life-changing.

I love this quote from the 30th President of the USA Calvin Coolidge -
"Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent"

Daily persistence, resolved determination and simple, actionable and measurable commitments is the key to success in our lives and making the changes we want to make in our lives.

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1 comment:

  1. Right on Al! Love it...going to make a few changes today.